as a side note to add on to what I've said here, I try to be as supportive as I can to frog bog members. They're my closest friends (other than my irl ones) and I openly encourage them to talk to us if they feel stressed/down/frustrated or whatever they're feeling. The part that makes me mad is when people take screenshots of these conversations (and sometimes outbursts) out of context and use it to hurt the reputation of the other frog bog members. I've already cut the frog bog down to about 20 members (and only 10 of them are active on both df and frog bog).
I'm tired of people gossiping about us because of some things we did wrong that we already fixed. I'm tired of people telling lies about us over out-of-context snips. I'm tired of people faking being my friend just so they can get into the bog. I just want to put into the spotlight here that its controversies are oftentimes completely untrue or based on contextless screenshots. I wish I never made anything about the server public in the first place.
EDIT: Here's a direct copy of something I have in pins in the main channel talking about encouraging them:
"and you know what? that goes for @everyone, seriously if you need someone to talk to I'm free like all the time, and I'm sure other people wouldn't mind taking some time to talk to you, either." (circa May 22)
"@everyone 7 months later and that top pin still stands (and forever will stand). If you ever need someone to talk to, just about everyone in the frog bog has their dm's open for you to talk to. we also have #venting if you don't mind it being public within the frog bog.
also, please do not share anything inside of #venting to anyone outside of the frog bog (unless given permission by the poster or you are the poster). that's personal stuff that they've trusted us with and I'd rather that not happen.
love you guys!" (circa December 3)